Friday, May 1, 2009

State of denial

image : best example of state-of-denial. Anyone disagrees!!?


This was topic of the cartoon me tried to draw when pakistan denied the terrorists , who were part of mumbai attack , were not pakistani citizens . We said they are in state of 'denial' . This post is all about state-of-denials we create in our real life.

How many times we just ignore things?.... to be happy!. Countless number , nahi kya?. Example, when good days are about to get over we easily get into that state saying , still many things left. We try to capture things from past for future 'use'..another way of denying truth...memories we start calling that. No wonder in all the parties many of us get busy with clicking-pics-work and stop enjoying the actual party . Situation of loosing contact with friends is scary , denial here is supported by orkuts-and-facebooks . We just think we are in contact with our near and dear one's . But are we actually in contact?.....Debatable topic....many will say that contact is virtual ....many will say naah!... real hai. We enjoy the happiness of denial , that can be called paradise of denial.

So many 'denials' already used till now. We should not accept truth and start cursing life. Accepting the situation and a move on from the situation does help . Denying the situation is actual helplessness.

I remember india government showed some denial , saying , "recession what recession!!?" . Denial can be part of very good diplomacy but accepting the truth and facing the reality is actual bravery. Bravery deserves a testing scenario.

p.s : This post is dedicated to the 'person' who kept me on chat till 3:30am ( today ). Me in state-of-denial , unable to accept that i won't be able to 'kill' early morning time in near future with her :(

p.p.s : today my UPSC admid card came . Till now , me was denying the fact that " i'm sitting for civil-service-exam". Now, with admit card on table....heart beating faster. Another denial coming to an end.

16 comments:

Aditi..............:) said...

yippie..I am first!! :P
Well, so truly said.....I know we all love to not accpet something which we arent comfy with....its the best escape from your own self...and does help us for the short period of time...but in the long run it sure pile up...:(
But I also feel, the people who really mean the world to us...we generally keep in touch with them...real one...not thru FB or Orkut, but actual mein we keep in touch....

neeraj_only said...

waaw!!...me still trying to find errors..and one comment from you.

thku aditi...

So nice of you that u keep in touch ur close frnds :), actually me very bad at keeping contacts. Want to change myself..in this front.

Anonymous said...

you are writing civil services exam? :O god bless! 17th may hai na? :P and about the self denial, well we all are in that phase at some point of time...

two people in love even if they are meeting for the last time (coz of reasons beyond their control) still keep looking into each others' eyes and keep holding each others' hands as long as possible..

self denial or what?

ankur shukla said...

intriguing post ,state of denial is so cliche these days!! hope u study hard nd still find time 2 chat nd socialize

Ashrita said...

DENIAL... Man.. This word is a part of my daily life. I use it atleast once during my day! I agree with your post. I could write a thesis on denial by now based on myself :P

neeraj_only said...

@ kajal : ya on 17th ( koi hope nahi hai aaise :P )

no explanation for lovers-looking-at-each-other, just like lovers do many things which can't be explained..lolz

neeraj_only said...

@ ankur : i was waiting 4 ur comment ( after all i went to ur room and asked for comment..hehe )

hehe...chat!!...ho jata hai kabhi kabhi..(subah...not always :P)

Anonymous said...

you got a point.. lovers do a lot of things which are beyond explanations..

neeraj_only said...

@ashrita : me afraid , every1 can write at-length on self denial. all of us have long list of self denial ready with us ...all the time :P

hey ashri!! plz share some of ur self denials....can't wait to know them :P

neeraj_only said...

we all know that kajal!!..u must have done many :P .....haha....lolz

Anonymous said...

'many' is such a small word ;)

neeraj_only said...

hahaha.....i knew this toipc can lead to unknown discussions :D

'many'....with single quotes has raised many questions...hehe..carry on kajal.

3 comments from u on this entry...max by anyone on my blog on single blog entry.

Anonymous said...

lol.. lets throw those questions out of the window.. ;)

fourth time here.. aane pe limitation to nahi hai na.. :P

my validity expires or what? :P

neeraj_only said...

nahi nahi kajal!!....apna hi blog samajho.."loose control"....hehehe....

just one problem , it seems so wonderful to have u here...me don't know how to react feeling so happy.....

my pleasure to have u here....

PULKIT said...

phases come and phases go...
to sum up life life in 3 simple words!
robert frost defined it as.... "IT GOES ON"

:)

hope u got my point!

all the best for the A exam ! my bro too appearing for it....

regards
PULKIT
(http://19goes20.blogspot.com)

neeraj_only said...

thku pulkit : such a confusing state of mind leads to denial.
Well said by u "it goes on"

i m excited about the exam...but the preparation is .... "kuch nahi "..hehe...still looking forward..always wanted to sit 4 this exam..since my school days.I used to read CSR in class 8...with gr8 dedication :P